Accepting Heartbreak as part of the Human Experience
A reflection on Providence and what comes with it
The concept of fate, providence, destiny, or in the Arabic tongue Kismet, has been one which at some stage all of us have faced or been forced to deal with at some stage. Whether we attribute it to something of a religious or supernatural nature and put our actual belief into its consequences or we rail against it as some form of unbiased chance, which we can outwit and fight our way through, it affects us nonetheless.
It has taken me a long time to come to terms with this concept in any meaningful way, turning to ancient wisdom to try and deal with the misfortune and pain which is so often caused by things not always working out. Yet even then, there will always be a part of us, the distinctly human aspect, which will find it immensely difficult to give in to the overburdening presence of rationality.
Common sense will tell us that things did not work out or went terribly terribly wrong, as a result of some event that was innately out of our control. Which philosophers and those who care for us, will so quickly tell us to disregard as being something we should not spend time dwelling on. Yet we will continue to cling to our loss or pain, for long after the initial wound was sustained. It becomes a part of us to a degree, as the thoughts of which come to us unbidden at the least expected or wanted times.
The wound whether it be physical, mental, romantic or any other form of pain which the ordinary individual is capable of enduring and living with, can at times become a huge part of our lives. This can be a willing choice, as those of us unwilling to engage in the experience which others will attempt to force upon us, that of “moving on” will be aware of. Or in a different context whereby, despite our best efforts we struggle to fully overcome the trauma we have sustained, no matter how minor or easily overcome it may seem to others.
This has at times in the past at least, been deemed to be comparable to weakness, when in fact it is a core part of the human experience. Part of a shared…
